As I continue to study Titus 2:3-5, I see that young women need to be trained how to be busy at home:
“Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God” (Titus 2:3-5).
These words are just one word in the Greek — oikouros. It’s a compound word meaning a guard over a dwelling (or home). It pictures someone who is in management over everything that happens in a home, being the one responsible to make sure everything gets done.
Whew! This is a huge responsibility!
So I’ve been thinking about how dangerous laziness must be. If God says that it’s a young woman’s job to guard over everything that happens in her home, making sure it all gets done, then the Enemy would like nothing more than to distract us from this job.
Laziness Destroys a Home
“One who is slack in his work
is brother to one who destroys” (Proverbs 18:9).
It’s certainly understandable why a woman would want to slack off on the never-ending list of things to do in her home. It’s just that — never ending! She starts to feel used and under-appreciated. She complains and feels like no one understands.
“The wise woman builds her home,
but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down” (Proverbs 14:1).
Part of the reason she feels this way is because she is wishing that life would be a little more fun, a little less work. I think we can all relate to this feeling.
“He who loves pleasure will become poor;
whoever loves wine and oil will never be rich” (Proverbs 21:17).
Yet, she will never find any satisfaction chasing pleasure. Our Creator God designed us to work (Genesis 1:27-28). Like a piece of machinery that functions only when it does what the engineer designed it to do, we will only function when we fill our days serving the Master Designer (and others).
When we don’t function as God designed us to, we begin to destroy both ourselves and those around us.
“We hear that some among you are idle. They are not busy; they are busybodies. Such people we command and urge in the Lord Jesus Christ to settle down and earn the bread they eat” (2 Thessalonians 3:11-12).
Five Ways to Overcome Laziness
1. Be Bossy with Yourself.
“Go to the ant, you sluggard;
consider its ways and be wise!
It has no commander,
no overseer or ruler,
yet it stores its provisions in summer
and gathers its food at harvest” (Proverbs 6:6-8).
A wise woman is the manager of her home. She has no need for anyone to manage her. Rather than needing to be reminded and reprimanded (usually by her husband), she has self-control.
“Therefore I do not run like a man running aimlessly; I do not fight like a man beating the air. No, I beat my body and make it my slave… (1 Corinthians 9:26-27).
Yes, some mornings, when she is lying in bed and wishing she could stay there, she has to talk sternly with herself — and mean it! 🙂
2. Get Up in the Morning.
“How long will you lie there, you sluggard?
When will you get up from your sleep?
A little sleep, a little slumber,
a little folding of the hands to rest —
and poverty will come on you like a bandit
and scarcity like an armed man” (Proverbs 6:9-11).
It’s really easy to hit the snooze on the alarm clock, isn’t it? “Only 10 more minutes, then I’ll get up.”
Yet a wise woman carefully chooses a reasonable time to wake up in the morning, then she forces herself to stick to it. Consistently. Every. Day.
(Maybe not Sabbath day…) 🙂
3. Plan What Needs to Be Done.
I’m a big fan of making lists. The purpose of a list is two-fold:
- It reminds you of what you really believe is important.
- It helps you actually accomplish something, rather than spin your wheels with indecision.
“The plans of the diligent lead to profit
as surely as haste leads to poverty” (Proverbs 21:5).
4. Follow Through.
The wise woman does more than plan; she forces herself to actually finish what she starts. There are lots of ways to get better at this, but again, it really boils down to self discipline.
“All hard work brings a profit,
but mere talk leads only to poverty” (Proverbs 14:23).
She doesn’t make excuses.
“The sluggard says, ‘There is a lion outside!’
or, ‘I will be murdered in the streets!'” (Proverbs 22:13).
She puts everything she has into her tasks, remembering why she’s doing it and realizing how valuable her time is!
“Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with all your might, for in the grave,where you are going, there is neither working nor planning nor knowledge nor wisdom” (Ecclesiastes 9:10).
Most of all, she does her work to please her Heavenly Father.
“Anyone, then, who knows the good he ought to do and doesn’t do it, sins” (James 4:17).
5. Don’t Give Up.
Even wise women have hard days when they feel like giving up or running away. However, feelings don’t lead her actions.
“Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up” (Galatians 6:9).
I hope you’ll choose one of these verses this week to post next to your alarm clock. Ask Father for help to be wise — to plan, to carry through, and to continue on. It’s a prayer He’ll surely answer!