I will never forget the day I discovered that making my home pretty was part of the will of God for my life!
With the dishes stacked high in the sink and on every available kitchen surface, with unfolded laundry piled on the living room floor, with toys scattered upstairs and down, and with overdue bills waiting to be paid, I turned in desperation to the Word of God. I searched for every Scripture passage that spoke about a wife’s responsibilities, and I made a list that covered the front and back of a piece of notebook paper.
What I read made me tremble! I realized all my dreams for my life hinged upon my success as a homemaker, for my very reputation was at stake.
I determined to make a change and, grabbing a piece of scotch tape, I hung my list on the kitchen cabinet over the sink. I plunged into the dishes and attacked stuck-on grime as I read the verses I had written. Halfway through, I turned the sheet around and read the other side of my list. Later, as my kitchen shone with cleanliness, I realized not only was my reputation at stake, but my joy and happiness were as well.
My great discovery was that…
“The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish pulls it down with her hands” (Proverbs 14:1).
Evidently, I’m not the only woman who has recently made this discovery. As I browse through a popular Christian bookseller’s catalog, I see scores of books and tools designed to bring women to the realization that a skillful housewife is a needed commodity. Believing women worldwide are heeding the call of Titus 2 and training the younger women around them to be “homemakers” (Titus 2:3-5). A lucrative business awaits those who are savvy enough to take heed to this trend and add training materials, tools and seminars to the market. Multi-year curriculum have been published that help mothers train their daughters in the skills of the home. There are obviously many talented women who excel in homemaking!
I’m not one of them, but I have a strong desire to become one. The Bible teaches that “an excellent wife is the crown of her husband” (Proverbs 12:4). I don’t know about you, but that appeals to me! Scripture also very clearly teaches that keeping a home is the primary responsibility of the wife (1 Timothy 5:14).
God has also been gracious enough to outline some of the duties of an excellent wife in the well-known poetry of Proverbs 31. If you, like me, desire improvement in this area, maybe you should read this portion of Scripture, then grab a piece of notebook paper and some scotch tape and display your own list of qualities that you’d like to see in your life. You will find that this list is immensely practical, for an excellent wife is:
- A hard worker
- Enterprising
- Diligent
- Wise with her money
- Healthy
- Conscious of the future
- Skillful in her home
- Kind and hospitable
- Careful about her appearance
If God can change my heart in this area, what can He do in yours?
What Skills Do You Want to Improve?
Finances
- How to Manage Your Money When You Don’t Have Any, by Erik Wecks
- Know the Time, Change Your World, by Barry Miller
- Mommy Savers — For thrifty moms who want the best for their families… but don’t want to spend an arm and a leg to get it!
- Debt-Proof Living — helping you get out of debt and find financial freedom
- How to Make a Budget and Stick to It
- You Need a Budget
- Wise Pockets – a unique way to teach your kids about money
- Health insurance costs can be one of the biggest expenses for a family. We have personally participated in and recommend Samaritan Ministries.
- Home Working Mom — a mom’s first step to working at home
- Counting the Cost is a creative website designed to help Christians learn biblical principles for money management and abundant living.
- Clark Howard hosts this website devoted to consumer advice and advocacy.
- The Dollar Stretcher is a fabulous website with tips to help you succeed in your budgeting goals.
- Miserly Moms has a goal of helping families reduce spending so Moms can stay home.
- Frugal Friends — a home for anyone looking to learn how to save money
Getting Organized
- FlyLady — What a great idea! This website will send you e-mails to help you learn how to get control of the clutter in your home! Totally free — definitely a thumbs up!
- Home Made Simple – all about the “organized life”
- Four Tenants of Deep Cleaning
- 1-2-3 Sort It — an amazing website that can help you get organized
- Chart Jungle— Free printables and reproducibles for baby, preschool, kindergarten, and more stages. Use the charts provided to help you get more organized in your life and activities.
- Get Organized Now has thousands of tips and ideas to organize your home, office and life.
- Scheduling Your Life
- Would you like to receive free timely time management tips on a regular basis to increase your personal productivity and get more out of every day? Sign up now for free Timely Time Management Tips (select “subscribe”).
- Free Daily Planners (17 different planning sheets you can print)
- Organized Home has ideas to help you organize, declutter, simplify and clean
- Amy Knapp’s Family Organizer
- Organizing Tips for Homeschooling Families
- PEGS System for planning family chores
Homemaking Skills
- Old Fashioned Living — Bringing Old Fashioned Traditions to Modern Living
- FamilyCorner.com has a fabulous virtual tipbook
- Keepers at Home sells an organizer that is sure to help you in your homemaking skills! Even if you decide not to order, you’ll learn a lot from this site.
- Household forms from DonnaYoung.org
- 21st Century Christian Homekeepers — a huge site!
- Saving Dinner — great kitchen ideas on this site
- Don Aslett’s Cleaning Center, from one of my favorite cleaning authors
- Sometimes we wish everything “nowadays” was as good as “way backwhen.” Before you find yourself with a heart of discontent, you might enjoy reading through these links: Victorian Washday
Gardening
Want to try Gardening? I don’t have a green thumb, but I wish I did so that I could obtain our family’s produce cheaper and healthier. One thing I’ve learned, though — an organic garden is the way to go…
- For supplies and seed catalogs (and tons more info!), go to the Gardener’s Supply Company.
- My favorite organic seed companies are The Natural Gardening Company and Seeds of Change.
- My mom recommends this site by P. Allen Smith. Just looking at it makes me wish my garden would grow like his! 🙂
- Here is a handy reference for United States plant hardiness zones.